Two introverts dating
“You’ll notice that she’s often single and happy about it, though she’s occasionally on the prowl, and sometimes in a relationship.
In true introvert fashion, Wilson’s character is often thrilled to be alone. I used to have a friend who’d say, “Dating is nothing but a numbers game.” She believed that going on more dates was equivalent to a higher likelihood of falling in love. However well-intentioned it may be, it flies in the face of a major factor essential to an introvert’s well-being—alone time. So yes, you will have times when sitting across from another human being, you’ll feel you’d rather pull out your molars without Novocaine than think of another word to say to this person. I feared if I declined, I would be passing up on a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. You will have days when unexpected issues arise at work, your cat gets sick, a family member calls with an emergency, or a friend emails with the last-minute favor to which you have to say yes because they helped you out last week.It might sound pretty reasonable when you first hear it except for the fact that it’s utter bullshit. It took me years of dating before I finally started ignoring this type of “practical” advice. For introverts, first dates are minefields of small talk and mindless chatter. if a tree falls in the forest and there’s no one to hear it, would this date be just as bad? As a result, I spent the following weekend on the couch, exhausted, spiraling down the rabbit hole of a bad television binge, barely able to peek around the door when the delivery guy dropped off my take-out. If you have a date scheduled that evening and you just can’t go, so be it.It made me more comfortable knowing the area, what kind of food there was, etc., so I could focus on the person and talking to them rather than the atmosphere or what I would order." —Stephanie Combs, Facebook "Go to events your more extroverted friends invite you to.Even if that means saying no to bingeing on another series!Dress in a comfortable way and talk to people your friends are/were talking to about something you/they find interesting.
No pressure." —mechteldho "One of the best pieces of advice I've ever gotten (from another introvert who was great at meeting/picking up people) was to treat the stranger like you've known them a long time but haven't seen them in a while.
Know that I think of you when I stare at my feet." "If I like you enough, you can sit near me while I'm having quiet time, but only if I can keep my headphones in." These and 14 other hilarious pick-up lines for introverts are from If you're in a relationship with one, or if you're pondering the best personality type for you to date, here are solid reasons to look for an introvert: Introverts are comfortable being in the background — they don't need (or want) to be in the spotlight.
They pay attention and listen hard — and will remember what you tell them in excruciating detail.
Do what you'd normally do then, ask how they're doing, ask how work has been, etc." —Martin Goetz, Facebook "Don't be afraid to be upfront about being an introvert with your date.
Introversion can be misread as a lack of interest to some people, so it's always better to say 'I'm an introvert' than to let them think you aren't enjoying their company." —Emily Weeden, Facebook "Become friends with people.
We wind up pulling away completely from each other, and giving each other too much room. It leads us to a level of acceptance that can only enhance our relationships and our humanity.