This is why I had to write about money and dating today. I doubt that any of my buddies care about your credit score either. Every couple would love to spend their holidays in Aruba. If you’re broke and frugal, your girlfriend with expensive taste might not find it so charming.
When you're dating, the last thing you're thinking about is your bank account.He sends back half-eaten dinners, complaining they were not to his liking. He tells you "going Dutch" is a cool thing modern women do..his ex.He purchases $400 shoes but gives you a birthday present that looks recycled. And how much will it cost if you end up in divorce court?But what about before you ever get to the ultimate level of long-term commitment?Finances are a pervasive issue, right from the get go, after all. He offered to take her for some fast food (or something quick).
She knew that he was well-off financially so she took his offer for coffee and turned it into a steak lunch.
There’s no bigger turn off for me than someone looking for a free ride (pardon the pun).
Historically, the gentleman has been responsible for covering the expenses. I’m a huge fan of investing in myself, but I’m also frugal when it comes to courting. You can’t throw all of your goals out the window because your current partner has different views.
However, after a few dates, guys get tired of always paying. Money determines what you do for fun, what you eat, where you live, and how you live. I don’t mind a weekend getaway, a hotel room for the night, or a fancy dinner once in a while. I would much rather train or invest money into my business. You have to remember that it’s your journey and your journey alone. Romantic partners will enter, stick around, and then turn into complete strangers. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you. For example, I have a friend who disappears whenever he finds a new girlfriend. He stops working out, doesn’t respond to his buddies, and spends all of his money on her. I’m here to remind you that it’s okay to be a little selfish sometimes. Money is very important when it comes to your relationships. You can ignore it at first, but the topic of money will always creep up into conversation.
I personally appreciate it when the lady at least as the guy. If the female doesn’t offer to at least buy a round of drinks by the fifth date, then you might want to watch out, because she clearly is expecting you to pay for in the long run. These are all sensitive topics when it comes to first date conversations. Most of us don’t have six months into the future and a college fund for the kids. Some guys don’t mind spending their paychecks on dating. I like to pay for dates, but I’m not a sponsor who’s looking to buy gifts and be on the hook for every single expense. Money is the deciding factor in every decision that you make as a couple. I don’t want to spend every single penny on dates and spoiling my girlfriend. Check out this Love and Money episode of #Talking Taboo to hear more perspectives on money and dating…
We’ve talked a lot about newlywed finances, combining or keeping finances separate in marriage, and how to start a financial conversation with a significant other.