Dating relationship boundaries
D, a clinical psychologist in Pasadena, Calif, defines a boundary as “the line where I end and someone else begins.” He likens boundaries in relationships to the boundaries around states.“Without any line the distinction becomes confusing: Who owns and maintains this ambiguous space? ”When the boundary is clearly defined and respected, you don’t need walls or electric fences, he said.
She shared these examples: “You can never” or “You must always.”Other poor boundaries alienate you from your partner, have a double standard or try to manipulate an outcome, she said.With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we're clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.Let me lay out what I view to be applicable biblical principles and passages on this topic.We all know what we're talking about here, and these are not the things I mean to address in this column.The game changes when two people are romantically involved or "semi-involved" (a fascinating phrase I recently heard). Before you start throwing things at your computer, let's go to Scripture.Over coffee with my mentor, he vented frustration after a string of disappointing first dates where the women shared far too much baggage about their relationship history.
Perhaps because he is a brilliant psychotherapist they felt more compelled to confess their neuroses---and perhaps this is also why he was so turned off.
You will be putting on a fake mask of masculinity and you will be quickly exposed.
You should set rules and boundaries to make your life peaceful.
It should be for your own self respect and sanity, NOT just to get her panties wet. I desire for my life to be as peaceful and calm as it can be.
Right now my life is pretty peaceful and setting rules for how people should treat me has made this possible.
We all have boundaries---physical, sexual, financial, informational, etc.