Dating more than one man and advice
In keeping with the purpose of dating, we advocate a conservative, defensive posture since it is our experience that there are many more people that don’t know how to date in a healthy manner than those that do.It is dangerous and risky to place yourself in a vulnerable situation until you really know who you are with.
Imagine being at a buffet where you could see only one item at a time.It Speeds up the Process of Meeting the Right Person Some people go on a first date and, wow, the magic and the sparks are there immediately.But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.For many single adults, there has been a history of dating one person, seeing if it will lead to a close significant relationship, and taking the relationship as far as possible.After it ends, the cycle then repeats: find and date just one new person.It’s true on e Harmony that the more people you communicate with, the faster you will find the person who is right for you.
But while most of our users are very comfortable communicating with multiple matches online, they sometimes get a bit more hesitant when emails turn into phone calls that start turning into dates, and they find themselves going for coffee with Mike on Tuesday, bowling with Bill on Thursday, and to a movie with Steve on Friday.
Last month, I wrote to two men that I was very interested in.
The good news is that both of them wrote me back and I have been seeing both for the past 2-3 weeks.
The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.
They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.
One question we often hear from singles is about dating one person versus dating more than one person at a time.