Dating and mating for the woman over 50
In school or work, you hung out with men by enjoying their company and spending time getting to know them. You aren’t getting any younger and you worry whether or not men will like you as you age (they do! So you try and get to the destination of finding out in 15 minutes if he is the one instead of enjoying the journey of attracting, meeting and getting to know a new man.
I would never online date again.” Another web dater, who also asked that his identity be withheld, is a 52-year-old single man who told Fox how he clicked with a woman who claimed to be in her final year of medical school.Up where the world is steep, like in the Andes, people use funicular railroads to get where they need to go — a pair of cable cars connected by a pulley far up the hill.The weight of the one car going down pulls the other up; the two vessels travel in counterbalance.I’ve learned that that’s what being a parent is like.If the years bring me low, they raise my daughter, and, please, so be it.This is an important idea even if you do live with a mate.
Remember the good old days, when you could snag a bikini off the sale rack and look like hot stuff on the beach? (Unless you’re Madonna, Helen Mirren, or happen to look like them.) The rest of us need to invest in clothing that’s a bit more, well, constructed.
But today as a single woman over 50, you can date for fun.
And men can fit into your life as friends, lovers, boyfriends or husbands. Yet even with all the options available, you might find dating has become yet another chore to check off your to-do list.
One in ten Americans have used an online dating site or mobile dating app, according to a 2013 PEW Research study, and the largest group searching online for a potential mate are singles 50 and older. Laurie Davis, author of “Love at First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating,” explained why the older population is at greater risk for being scammed.
But unlike tech-savvy 20- and 30-something online daters, the plus-50s are less aware of the perils that lurk on the web. “They are not reading the red flags because they’re not using Facebook and Twitter as a digital lifestyle.
I surrender gladly to the passage, of course, especially as each new moment gone by is another I’ve lived with her, but that doesn’t mean I don’t miss the days when my hair was actually all brown and my skin free of weird spots.